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Systematic Analysis of Love

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Love is a feeling……

Love is electric……
Love is a waste of time……
Love is a hormonal cocktail……
Love is life……

Different people with different definitions of love! These wordings look good on Valentine’s Day greeting cards. They sound good when our cine heroes proclaim their undying love for their sweethearts with all plausible facial expressions (or sometimes animations:-)). But personally, what is love? Over many decades, love has been the base for innumerable songs, stories, sonnets, etc, etc. Are the poets fond of love or is it love that has made them poets? Funny discussion and obviously an inconclusive one! It is akin to a maze that twists and turns into many circuitous routes but invariably lead to a dead end at every other corner. Yet, any piece on love, no matter how sensible or silly, I am sure would make an interesting read and even more when personified as a living entity. It is this belief that has driven me into making this article on love.

Until a few years ago, love was secretive and often accompanied by a guilt feeling ‘No! It’s wrong’. People flaunting their love was a rare event, thanks to our conservative culture (movies are always exceptions). But still, the number of absconding love pairs was high, probably, forbidden fruit was tastier. I remember this funny reply by someone when asked ‘Are you in love?’ Out came the spontaneous response, “I am not that kind of a person, you know!” I didn’t understand what exactly that someone meant by it but I, for one found it very amusing. Does being in love mean you are ‘that’ kind of a person? And what kind is ‘that’ kind? There you see, I am already facing a dead end even before fully commencing my narration.

With a little help from westernization and lots of influence by Holly-Bolly-Kolly-wood, love had managed to climb up the pedestal and glow in the limelight as something immortal, invincible and deleteriously divine! Laila-Majnu, Romeo-Juliet and Ambigavathi-Amaravathi were praised for their nobility and fidelity to love while their stupidity in seeking suicide was unspoken. Love was lavishly glorified, provided it was between the backstreet boy and the next door girl. Glorified for its endless source of gossips. But say love within the confines of your house and one can see its real dramatic effect, best performance awards to the status-minded daddies and tear-stained mummies, properly supported by the so called caste and community crews. Yet, Love was divine!!! 🙂

Having witnessed the extremes, we have at last settled down for a balance (to what extent is beyond the scope of my analysis). Today, love is acceptable (Thank God!). Young people are overjoyed by this acceptance that they started falling in love N number of times. You see a person and your heart starts fluttering, you are in love. You like his moustache, you like her ponytail, you are in love. Your friend says “Buddy, you are in love” and you are in love! Precisely, being in love today is a feather on one’s hat. We are in love all the time. No one bothers to differentiate love and infatuation. Yup, why bother? After all it sounds so kiddish to say I am infatuated but so proud to say I am in love!!! Infatuation, of course, comes into picture when the fancy for someone fades away and a need to find an escape arises. “You see, I was just infatuated to you…we were never meant to be” or another easy resort, “Hey, it was all just friendship yaar.” Or worse “I thought of you only as my brother.” Frequently used break-up dialogues!!! Smart people!!!

My thesis would remain incomplete if I forget to mention a special category of love – Love for convenience! These people set their goals and ambitions, a rich father’s only daughter, an US settled trendy dude, and then search for their love. Even in case their love fails after marriage, the wealth and ambition would still remain fulfilled. Mean though it seems, I have to applaud this category for their strategic planning. A sub-category of this is ‘Easy Love’ (I’d rather call it Lazy Love). Here, people simply know the pre-requisites to get a green signal from their families – same caste, same status and all those blah blah and carry on their love hunt accordingly. Superbly secure!! All is fair in love and war – now I know what it means.

Coming to some serious stuffs, all of the above has masked the meaning of the two golden words ‘True Love’. Yes! It appears like an imaginary elixir, a supernatural unreal vision, or a highly senti fiction, but true, it does exist, silently and modestly it does. A perfect blend of care, concern and affection, a pinch of lust, a pinch of romance and lots and lots of friendship seasoned with a number of years of knowing each other would give a true, royal love. It is for those people that I am dedicating this article to. In short, love is feeling for another what you feel for yourself, feeling another as a part of yourself, a feeling of belonging and being belonged to. This is my definition of love. It wouldn’t say I am right, I wouldn’t say I am wrong. I only say this is my definition because, different people have different definitions of love!!!

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2 thoughts on “Systematic Analysis of Love

  1. ‘True Love’. Yes! It appears like an imaginary elixir, a supernatural unreal vision, or a highly senti fiction, but true, it does exist, silently and modestly it does. A perfect blend of care, concern and affection, a pinch of lust, a pinch of romance and lots and lots of friendship seasoned with a number of years of knowing each other would give a true, royal love. It is for those people that I am dedicating this article to. In short, love is feeling for another what you feel for yourself, feeling another as a part of yourself, a feeling of belonging and being belonged to. This is my definition of love…

    anni.. neenga engayo poiteenga..
    gr8…

  2. @sivaguru: thank u sivaguru. this post was written before i had got committed to vijay. probly this is what they mean by saying “dreams come true” 🙂

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